You can definitely go the aftermarket route which will require some splicing but isn't overly complicated. We also have installation videos you can use as a reference to make things easier. For a hitch you can use the Curt # 13342 as long as you don't have the BlueTEC. This features a bolt-on installation and comes with a lifetime warranty.
For wiring, you're on the right track with the # ETBC7. However, you need to start by installing a 4-way with # 119147KIT. Once you have a 4-way you... view full answer...
Your 2003 Mercedes ML350 is a vehicle we have never been able to put a brake controller on in our shop. It appears you are going to need the Wiring Kit # 5506 to install the Tekonsha Prodigy P3 # 90195 as I do not see any wiring for a brake controller on your harness. The Wiring Kit # 5506 contains the wiring and circuit breakers required.
If you are concerned about the additional wiring you might consider something like the Autowbrake # 3430001 which attaches to the trailer. As you already... view full answer...